If you’re reading this, then it’s likely your girlfriend has paid you a visit in your sleep recently. Lucky you! Or maybe not so lucky, depending on what happened…
Dreaming about significant others is very common – they are (usually) a large part of your waking life, so why wouldn’t they regularly appear in your nighttime thoughts?
Was it your current girlfriend? An ex, haunting you nightmare style? Somebody that you wish you could have dated but never got the chance? A complete figment of your imagination?
There are many meanings we could deduce and reflections to be made about why your partner has become the star of your dreams.
Remember that all of the following hypotheses are to be taken with a pinch of salt, of course – everybody is different, and there’s no one right answer or analysis!
If you think my perceptions make sense and are applicable to your life then definitely spend time reflecting on why that is, but don’t take them to heart or too seriously.
That being said, if few or none of these reasons why you’d be dreaming about your lovely lady (real or otherwise) resonate, don’t worry about it.
It’s just a dream, after all!
So, without wasting any more time with the what-ifs – let’s get into some interpretation!
Lovey Dovey Girlfriend Dreams
When you’re lucky enough to have a romantic or positive dream about your girlfriend, and if the relationship feels like it’s working well whilst you’re catching those zzz’s, this could be indicative of what your waking love life is actually like.
Our dreams often do take inspiration from our waking life, so being happy and secure with your girlfriend will definitely permeate into your subconscious.
Dreaming about a partner after considering popping the question could also be reflective of your internal desire to tie the knot, and perhaps you should follow your gut!
If you find yourself wondering why your dreams of passion and romance can’t be a reality, it could be time to talk to your partner about your wants and needs!
Dreaming About An Ex Girlfriend
Do not panic! Exes creeping up in your dream does not mean you should get back together or reassess the breakup, so there’s no reason for alarm.
It’s more likely that you didn’t receive the necessary closure you needed to move on from the situation, so your mind is looking to work through those thoughts and feelings, whilst you’re asleep!
It could also be that you’re worried about the fate of a newfound relationship, and old anxieties about potential flaws from previous commitments are resurfacing. Try to focus on the here and now, rather than dwelling on the past and what might or might not have happened.
If your new girlfriend makes you happy, that’s all that matters – concentrate on her, and hopefully, your dreams will follow suit!
Dreams Where You’re Arguing/Breaking Up With Your Partner
When your waking relationship is stable but you’re having difficulty communicating with your partner in your dreams, don’t worry! Usually, your brain is just projecting your deep-rooted anxieties and presenting you with some unpleasant scenarios you may have thought about before.
If you tend to fight a lot with your girlfriend when you’re awake and asleep, it could be that you have some serious conflicts to resolve; it’s important to communicate about this, as well as to remember that those dream fights didn’t actually happen and aren’t your partner’s fault!
Whatever the context, when a girlfriend behaves inappropriately in dreamland, you have no right to take it out on her when you open your eyes – as much as you might feel like it!
Cheating/Being Cheated On
Although you might wake up feeling incredibly guilty – don’t worry, what happens in dreamland stays in dreamland!
Rather than suggesting you should break up with your current girlfriend immediately, this more likely represents your desire (whether good or bad) to act on impulse or indulge in guilty pleasures.
When things have been a little stale in your sex life, this kind of dream indicates a desire to reignite the passion, which your mind has chosen to do by seeking it elsewhere.
Do not imitate this move – instead, talk to your partner about how you’re feeling, but never guilt her into doing anything she isn’t in the mood for, obviously.
When the shoe is on the other foot, try not to be too hard on your girlfriend if she does the dirty on you while you’re dreaming – this is more a manifestation of your own insecurities than it is anything else!
Still, try talking to her about it and, if you have been feeling jealous lately, ‘fess up. Don’t be a baby about it, just tell her the truth and – provided they’re a decent person – I’m sure you’ll get the reassurance you’re after.
Dreaming About A Girlfriend Who Doesn’t Exist
One of the most heart-wrenching dreams to have, especially after a breakup or when you’ve been looking for love a long time.
To dream about a girlfriend your imagination has conjured up for you could be an indication that you’re longing for connections, whether platonic, spiritual, or romantic.
You might not want a significant other, perhaps you’re just looking for a one night stand, or maybe you really want to settle down with “the one” – either way, your mind is on love, big time. Or… maybe you’re happily dating someone else, and your brain has manifested this random new girlfriend for you?
First of all, rude. Secondly – what was the girlfriend in your dream like, and how do her qualities compare with that of your actual partner? And no, I’m not talking about her physical appearance – don’t be a douche!
What I mean is this: if your dream girlfriend liked to take walks with you, say, and your waking girlfriend is often too busy to go hiking, perhaps it’s worth talking to her about making more time for you.